Who else has moments of feeling like a disappointment??
I happen to have these moments the most when around my grandparents. The traditionalists who find it unfathomable that a 24 year old woman is single with no children.
This all goes back to the holidays but will become relevant soon…..bare with me.
Soooooo the usual awkward get together with them occurs. Topics usually 1.weather 2.school 3.politics 4.relationship status (for me only, of course) because my sister’s still “young” 🙄.
This year, however, the awkwardness was at a minimum. I talked to my grandma about music and introduced her and my grandfather to Snapchat…….which is always entertaining when introducing anyone to haha……..the night was going smoothly and quickly. No unbearable questions asked. First sign of disappointment from them was when I informed them of my going back to school. My grandfather didn’t understand that. But they faked excitement and it was fine. The real disappointment was when we were saying our goodbyes (my mother, father, sister, and I) me and my sister were just about out the door when my grandfather just had to ask, “So Jordan, you don’t have a boyfriend do you?” Me “ummm no…” immediately thinking of someone (who’s irrelevant now) who was definitely not a boyfriend but a “friend” Him “yeah I figured” Me, thinking “wtf is that supposed to mean??” My grandmother “she’s focused on school” Him “oh yeah she’s being ‘smart'” Her “For now” Me….again…..thinking “wtf” first I’m shamed for being single, now shamed for being smart……..for now!
Once we get back to the car my mother tells me he asked if he “hit a nerve” to which she responded that I’ve dated but just hasn’t found someone serious. My sister asks me “why does he always ask if you have a boyfriend??”
I’m 24, OBVIOUSLY a woman should be married way before 24. Being 24 and still single?! I mean, you’re almost 30! 😱 add insult to injury (always wanted to use that phrase) I have no kids, unless you want to count Bubby 🐶
To recap, 24 year old women should be married and “birthin’ babies”, running a household…..cause heaven forbid a woman work outside of the home.
“You get off on your nine to five
Dream of picket fences and trophy wives
But no, I’m never gonna be ’cause I don’t wanna be
No, I don’t wanna sit still look pretty”
So, on the opposite side of this coin,
Coming back to relevance. If you read my previous post, I may want casual and fun but I still want “chivalry”.
I would liked to be picked up, mainly because I do not have a vehicle. I don’t understand how someone, who you intend to have sex with, can get annoyed that he has to pick you up. I mean HELLO! You do realize what’s gonna happen don’t you??? You’re getting sex out of this. The least you can do is give a girl a lift.
I don’t want the picket fence but I still want the respect.
There you have it.
I hope this made sense haha.